Moving On From A Toxic Workplace
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So why did I finally launch my art business?
I felt more confident in my skills and that my art was worth selling 😆
The art I had been making before 2022 was kinda just for fun and practice. There really wasn’t any solid motif yet and I also hadn’t quite developed my art style.
After I developed my art style, I finally had a sense of direction. The new artwork I was making was now looking more cohesive and I also now had varieties of work for people to look through.
Then what finally pushed me to establish Daydreaming Muse, was because I was so fed up with all these toxic workplaces. 😆
I was tired of all these petty power games and competitiveness. I also got tired of bringing my best, my time, my energy to a group of people who constantly tried to belittle me or completely violate my personal boundaries.
Also, have you seen how terrible most workplaces are??
The lack of integrity.
The lack of professionalism.
The lack of quality leadership.
Like que horror 😂
I have worked in several toxic workplaces and its one of the reasons why my nervous system is all over the place 😂😂
I’ve seriously gone through multiple attempted assaults and persistent attempts to invade my privacy.
(future post on this later 💝)
Pero gracias a dios, I live in Arizona where Llama Rafi signs are plastered EVERYWHERE and so I can at least be reminded that I can get help from someone 😆
btw Rafi is a personal injury attorney not an employment attorney 🥲
I must also say that you really do have to do research on any type of lawyer you think about hiring. There are quite a few law firms that are only focused on taking as much money as possible away from you.
While I certainly need to get therapy for all the nonsense I went through, I am overall thankful that I can advocate for myself and seek out resources.
The good things that came out of having gone through these experiences is that it pushed me to establish my creative work and I learned what not to do as a future leader.
Working for yourself does have its pros but it also comes with its challenges. In my opinion, I feel like establishing my art business has humbled me and made me more aware of how valuable relationships are. And how important it is to appreciate everyone on your team including the people who aren’t directly involved with your business. I think working for myself has also made me more aware of my emotional reactions and how that affects the people around me. I honestly feel like to be an efficient leader, you also have to know how to be a team player and like….
Actually care about people??
🤷🏼♀️
And you know,
I was actually pretty against the entrepreneurial path at one point 😆
For several reasons, I always associated “entrepreneur” and “business” with greed, my dad was ALWAYS trying to make a buck out of any skill I had
As an eldest daughter, I hated the idea of possibly having people dependent on me 😆
And my oh my, how the turn tables 😝
It’s actually the other way around!
Owners/managers are dependent on their employees for their business to keep running…
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I’ll be honest querides, I have no idea how to be a top business
Or leader.
Regarding business, I have made soooooo many mistakes 😂😂
And thankfully I can afford to because I don’t have a lot of serious responsibilities yet.
Regarding leadership?
Sighhhhhhh
😮💨
😂
I get told that I am a good leader and thanks but like why do I have to be the leader???
Why do I have to be the responsible one???
Why do I have to be the rock for others??
🥲
eldest daughter dilemmas 💔
😆😆
And I think this brings me to one of the best parts about finally establishing my art business. I am forced to face some internal struggles like asking for help 💀
Setting boundaries and sticking to them 😤
I honestly would say that my art business has helped me fortify my sense of self even more and because I care A LOT about the longevity and authenticity of my creative work, I am way more focused and protective of everything I’ve built.
Like at this point, I totally get why Prince was so controlling over his work 😆
And no wonder he established Paisley Park 🪻✨️
It makes me think of how delightful it is to just be in my studio working by myself in peace. In bliss. And the best part of all? I’m actually safe!
I don’t have to worry about any workplace bullying….
Someone trying to drag me into their unconscious competition…..
I don’t have to worry about my body being dead for four days at my office……
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😭
Que es esto!!!!!!
😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
Her coworkers assumed her decomposing body was plumbing issues??
🤦🏼♀️
And notice it mentions that “she mostly kept to herself”?
I wonder why……
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I’ve never worked in a cubicle working space Gracias a Dios
But i’ve heard a lot a horror stories 😭😭😭😭
Also….
This happened in Tempe, Arizona.
I’ll be honest, all the cruddiest jobs I’ve worked where in Tempe 😅
And I have unfortunately been through A LOT of creepy experiences in Tempe 🥲
At this point, I am convinced there’s a demon portal in Tempe.
….
🤔
Oh it's ASU
🤯
😝
Hearing about stories about this does kinda trigger some PTSD 😅
My entire body just gets this overwhelming sense of fear and sadness
Some anger too
It’s all just very unpleasant feelings
But I also think deeply on who I will be as a potential employer.
Someday I may have to hire a team and hopefully I do better than my previous employers ❤️🩹
Or maybe I'll just keep doing everything on my own 🤷🏼♀️
😆
Idk querides
I really am learning everything as I go ☺️
I really hope workplace culture changes. I personally don't think the solution to “escaping” toxic workplaces is through just becoming an entrepreneur and I don't want to make it seem like this is the best and only path to choose. In my opinion, I think going into entrepreneurship being so ego driven or self centered can be the worst thing you can do for your business.
You still need to care about other people. Your collaborators. Your audience. Your loved ones.
In my case, I think becoming a business owner has been very liberating but at the same time I do kinda feel…. very sad?
😅
I think my soul really wants to just finally be away from the world and finally be allowed to cry for every single traumatic experience I've had related to working with people 😅
But…..
I have bills to pay, people to meet, and art to share with the world so….
Ni modos 🤷🏼♀️
There's no other way to go except forward 🌅
Thanks so much for reading this next chapter in Memoirs of A Daydreaming Muse 🥀
I hope wherever you are, you have people around who genuinely care for you and that you do have a safe space to retreat to when you need to breathe again 💓
I will be linking a book that helped me navigate toxic workplaces because these Corps ain't loyal 🤷🏼♀️
And a link to a new bill that's been in the works. The Healthy Workplace Bill.
Nos vemos querides 💋
Corporate Cults book by Dave Arnott
Healthy Workplace Bill
